IX. As tiny humans, we will give up almost any part of ourselves for love and belonging.
We, as small people, learn what it is to be a part of the family that we were born into. We don’t question their rightness or wrongness....
VII. We are shaped by the past more profoundly than we think.
I often find myself saying to people: “These are the actual details of your life. They are yours. Here they are. You must make some...
VI. Fine: Feelings Inside Not Expressed.
Expressing joy is not actually generally accepted in our culture of careful public expression of feeling. How many times do we...
IV. Stuffing our feelings causes disease.
The cycle of not feeling and stashing and moving on takes hold of us. Since we rarely get to come back and feel the feelings that we...
III. If we could stop acting as though feelings are a side aspect of human experience, rather than t
When my kids were tiny, I was struggling hugely with depression and didn’t know it. This manifested as rage and the rage got directed at...
II. Bodies and feelings are central to healing. We aren’t alive without them.
We have forgotten how to feel deeply. And, it’s likely even worse than that, since it’s not just a matter of forgetting. We have created...
I. Humans Are Soft-Bodied, Feeling Creatures
Humans are soft-bodied, feeling creatures. We have guts on our insides and we know they’re really vulnerable. Our skeletons do not cover...