IX. As tiny humans, we will give up almost any part of ourselves for love and belonging.
We, as small people, learn what it is to be a part of the family that we were born into. We don’t question their rightness or wrongness. As said in the previous post, these are simply the water you are swimming in or the air that you breathe. You learn to uphold the family ways. We learn are about physical and emotional safety. Some of us learn that we have little or none of these things. We make ways of coping with the degree of safety that we have. Sometimes these coping me
VIII. Families pass dysfunction and residual trauma down through the line.
We have the parents that we have. And their parents. And theirs. It matters deeply what happened to those people who came before us. We carry personal, familial and collective trauma. As a descendant of a family that came from various places in Europe to Canada, I inherit the collective trauma of World Wars I and II, rationing in England, bombs, fear of Jews, fear of Nazis, the impact of colonialism on my sense of privilege, the twisted logic of slavery and Residential School
